Nowadays the problems of generation gap become more and more serious. The poor relationship between parents and their children is very common. Are these problems caused by the busy parents? Or do the harsh family rules affect the relationship of parents and children?
如今,代沟的问题变得越来越严重。父母与子女之间的关系不好是很常见的。是忙碌的父母引起这些问题的?或者,是苛刻的家规影响了父母和孩子的关系?
Firstly in most of the families in China both of the parents have to go out for work in order to earn more money to provide better environment for their lovely children. Unfortunately this causes the rare communication between them and their children since these parents always take rest during leisure time. These parents and children cannot know deeply about each other and friction will appear. Secondly parents who ask their children to be absolutely obedient is also one of the grave causes of the generation gap between them! They do not try to communicate with their children as their equals. Thus misinterpretation of them may easily occur.
首先,大多数中国家庭的父母双方都外出工作,以赚取更多的钱,以提供更好的环境给他们的可爱的孩子。不幸的是,这会导致他们和孩子之间的沟通太少,因为这些家长总是在闲暇时间休息。这些家长和孩子不能深入了解对方,摩擦就会出现。其次,父母要求他们的孩子必须绝对听话也是他们之间的代沟严重的原因之一!他们不会试图与他们的孩子平等沟通。因此,他们的误解可能会很容易发生。
To solve these problems the busy parents should sacrifice their spare time to communicate with their children actively and friendly to improve their relation. At the same time they can also observe their children's behavior at the same time in order to understand their children's personality as it can reduce the quarrel between them. Besides that the parents should try to give up their absolute power in family so as make their children feel free to chat with them.
为了解决这些问题,忙碌的父母应该牺牲自己的业余时间与孩子积极友好地沟通,以改善他们的关系。与此同时,他们还可以观察孩子的行为,同时为了了解孩子的个性,因为它可以减少他们之间的争吵。除此之外,家长应尽量放弃自己的绝对的家庭权力,从而让孩子可以自由地与他们聊天。