爱华网因缘巧合
鸭绒25
2012年6月27日
好像是古希腊哲学家亚里斯多德说的，如果有只乌龟落到你头上，抬头看，一定有只老鹰在天上。
这句话说的是偶然与必然的哲学关系。
我和初二5班断了联系已经很久了，也没有任何预警说明今生会有重回这个集体的可能和必要。我目前的生活、工作、社交，乃至观念不但离上中曾经的那个班级很远，甚至离上海，离中国都很远。
直到今年4月的一天，接到女儿打来的电话：“爸，谁是诸葛荣？”
“诸葛荣？你怎么知道他？”
“他要找你。”
“他在美国？”
“是。那我就把你的电话、地址给他。”
“好。没问题。”
放下电话，我以为那只是一个中学同学的个人行为，都在美国，老同学之间叙叙旧而已。
然而，当我看到了女儿和诸葛荣之间的电邮往来，才明白，原来，任何偶然事件的背后，都是有其必然理由的。用中国的语言说，就是“因缘巧合”。“巧合”是偶然，“因缘”就是必然。诸葛荣和我之间的巧合重逢，是由两个母亲和她们的女儿的因缘牵连着的，而连线的另一头则拽在5班的周良玉、郑小华和任西平手里。
在诸葛荣写下了《中年送人》和他女儿写的告别妈妈的信之后，我也将这段因缘巧合故事的另一半----我女儿和诸葛荣之间的联系，公开给同学，以作补充。
诸葛荣给我女儿的信：
达芙妮：
嗨，在办公室收到你的邮件，可惜公司的电脑没有中文软件，但我必须要赶在午餐休息的时间回复你。
你母亲和我已故的妻子由于在上海同一家医院寻求治疗而相识，并成为好友。那应该是1994年中到1995年下半年的事情，那时你和你母亲还在一起。她们俩的处境非常相似：都在中年的早期得了不治之症；都有一个女儿；都有一个丈夫在美国打拚，这使她们的关系变得非常密切。她们曾经就你的前途作过难以决断的讨论，但都认为你最好的出路是去美国跟你的父亲生活。
我是在1999年中妻子病情恶化时才了解到这一切的。在生命接近终点前，她告诉我，她有一个要好的同房病友，希望她能有机会代她看望她的女儿，并让女儿知道，母亲对她无条件的爱和深切地担忧，也希望女儿能和上海的家人保持联系。遗憾地是我妻子未能完成病友的托付，1999年11月她在美国佛罗里达州的迈阿密市去世。
过去的十多年里，这件事成了我心头的一个小小负担，而现在，总算是可以如愿以偿了。我非常高兴你在美国的一切都好，每年也都回上海看望外婆和舅舅们。然而，这一切的结果都是缘于上海中学初二5班同学会的努力，是他们给了我一个机会找到了你上海的舅舅，否则，我将对你父亲的信息一无所知。真是个因缘巧合的故事，不是吗？
我的女儿，荧，已在2006年完成了她的医学院课程，并在迈阿密当了一位住院医师。希望你们能有机会建立联系。
我会打电话给你父亲。
诸葛荣
2012年4月11日
我女儿给诸葛荣的信：
嗨，荣叔叔：
抱歉我的微软邮箱不能正常运作，我要换另外一个邮箱才能给你写信。
非常感谢您一直在寻找我并告诉我妈妈的遗愿。这对我来说意义重大。同时，我也非常难过你也失去了你的最爱。虽然已经过去了很多年，我能确定，每当想起她，你还是会伤心的。不幸的是，我在妈妈去世之前没能见上她最后一面。这将是我的一个终生遗憾。
幼年丧母，使我学会了对家庭和朋友的感恩。当我在生活中遭遇挑战，我就会想到她，想到她与病魔搏斗的坚强意愿。这会激励我不要放弃。
很高兴你的女儿，荧，能达成心愿成为一名医师。我也确定，我们的母亲会为我们今天的成就而感到骄傲。
如果你们能有机会来洛杉矶，一定要来看我们。我会非常乐意陪你们看看南加州的风光。下面是我的联络电话。
请多保重！
达芙妮
电话：626-XXX-XX99626-XXX-XX99
2012年4月11日
附录：
诸葛荣英文信原文：
04-11-2012
Hi, Daphne,
I read your message in office where PCdoes not equip Chinese but I have to write right back to you duringlunch break.
Your mother and my late wife somehowbecame close friends while they were pursuing medical treatmenttogether in Shanghai. I believe that wasbetween mid 1994 to late 1995 and you were with your mother at thetime. Theywere in very similar situations (got life-threatening sickness inearly-middle age, had a daughter, and had a husband struggling inthe US) which made them close. They had difficultdiscussions about your best interests and felt you would be inbetter situation with your father.
I found all these in the middle of 1999when her health terminally deteriorated. She told me amother-patient-friend in Shanghai would like her one day to see hergirl and let her know her mother’s non conditional love and deepworry for her; and her wish that her girl would keep the family tiein Shanghai closely. She passed away inNovember 1999 in Miami Florida.
I have kept this little “weight” in mymind for the past ten plus years and now finally can release it.I am veryhappy you are doing well and going back to see the elders in ayearly basis. And, I could notconfirm I knew your father until recently. This all is resultedfrom a “Shanghai Middle School” schoolmate reunion camping whichgave me an opportunity to reach your uncle in Shanghai. Quite a great story,isn’t it?
My daughter, Ying, has completed hermedical education in 2006 and been working as a resident physicianin Miami since. Hope you two got chanceto communicate in future.
I will call your father.
Rong
我女儿英文信原文：
04-11-2012
Hi Uncle Rong,
Sorry that my hotmail email accountisn't working properly, so I'm switching to another email accountto write to you.
I want to thank you so much for trackingme down and passing on my mother's message. It really means a lotto me. AndI'm really sorry about your loss as well. Even though it was along time ago, I'm sure whenever you think of her, it makes yousad. It wasunfortunate that I didn't get to see my mother before her passing.I thinkthat's something that will bother me for the rest of mylife.
Because I lost her at a young age, Ilearned to appreciate the family and the friends that I have.When I comeacross challenges in life, I think of her and her strong will tofight her disease, it's what keeps me going.
It's great to hear that Ying issuccessful at what she does. I'm sure our motherwould be really proud of what we've became.
If you guys ever come out to LA, be sureto look us up. I'd love to show youguys around. I'm attaching mycontact information below.
Take care!
Daphne Chen
626-XXX-XX99626-XXX-XX99
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